- chimes: what sounds are your favorite?
i like white noise a lot.. like fans, air conditioners, that sort of thing. i like city sounds (cars/ppl shouting/general loudness) a lot, silence is scary to me.
- stories: books you remember from your childhood?
well harry potter obvs, more specifically shoebox project tho.. the animorphs series (i own ALL of it omg) was my Big Thing tho. the eye the ear and the arm was given to my class in 4th grade as a gift from our teacher (like we each got a copy) & it was one of my fave books for a really long time.. and david sedaris stuff, especiallyme talk pretty one day & naked.
When someone sets a boundary with you they are saying “no.” No means no. Do not push people on their boundaries or ask for explanations that are not readily given. Doing these things indicates that you do not respect their boundaries. For many people, saying “no” once, setting a boundary, is difficult enough. Do not put them in a position where they must repeatedly do so. No means no the first time. Pushing them on it suggests a hope that you can wear them down, which is problematic at best and predatory at worst. No means no.
ironically, enforcing the idea that Youre Only Gay And Trans If You Cant Stop Thinking About It only further reinforces the idea that being cishet IS the default, IS the norm, that if you dont feel REALLY REALLY OVERWHELMINGLY not cishet you cant be queer or trans and its like, that way of thinking, that “exclusive club” mentality aint helpin nobody
society is VERY GOOD at making you feel like you arent queer or trans because a) it doesnt tell you about these identities in depth in the first place and b) it encourages you NOT to be gay or trans at all costs, so its no wonder so many people either bury any queer/trans feelings they might have (like I did) or just not even…realize these things about themselves because theres nothing for them to identify with since we are taught from pre-birth to be straight and cis